About Us | Our cats are inside cats who had only lived with a dog who had been strictly trained by a previous set of cats, so that was vital. They look scary. It’s all pretty raw still, and I’m sad and have tremendous guilt. And I am working from home 50 hours a week. It is so easy to beat ourselves up for being human, but dogs forgive us, and they are often wiser than we are, right? I think I have returned to this post over and over again. I adopted two 5-year old British Shorthairs just a week and a half ago, and while I think they have adjusted to living with me quite happily, I'm having serious doubts about whether I … She seemed friendly enough and jumped in our car as soon as she saw the car door open and never looked back. We can’t have her in the bedroom as I’m a little allergic, which is all good as long as she’s not in bed. He is sweet and affectionate, and only 2 years old, just like the original cat. She chewed on the woodwork, the walls, doors anything she could chew on. By 48 hours, things on the dog-dog front were getting slightly better, but we started getting glimpses of separation anxiety from the new dog. I need to work on steps 3, 5 and 6. It’s easier in a way for me. Repeat that as you snuggle with him on the couch, invite Patience and Faith to sit beside you and be proud that you have given Bo such a wonderful home. Within days, it was clear she wasn’t good with anything but my husband and me. People have come out from their backyards to see what I’m doing to my dog because it sounds like he’s being abused. He ate sticks and stones for six months because it took him that long to believe he would always have food available. Glory actually received her AKC Canine Good Citizenship certificate and all I could was sit and laugh remembering all we had been through to reach that point. It’s been four summers since we’ve been able to travel, because our Lucy doesn’t like other dogs, golf carts, motorcycles. For me, that feeling has always taken weeks to pass, until I reach a point where I’m comfortable with the new people and the new routine. Jim and I, who were out working on our own downed trees stood watching with our mouths agape. I did a board and train and it seemed to make things worse. You need support, compassion and peace. Several homes and business have been flooded or badly damaged by the storms, and my heart goes out to them. Here’s an interesting post from behaviorist Patricia B McConnell on three ways to confuse a new dog. It has really helped me deal with what I am going through right now. I couldn’t trace his owner and suspect he was thrown out of a car. And I would worry about her. I have so much anxiety all the time about her and how she is acting and what if it doesn’t get better, what if I can’t be what she needs and I have to give her back like her previous owners did (they had her from puppyhood and then returned her to the rescue because they had a baby). I’m not all that keen on medicating dogs but I think it might help the 2 females chill out somewhat so that we can train more effectively (and hopefully the diarrhea would stop!). We found out that he wasn’t house trained and had a nasty habit of jumping at people and mouthing (or biting). This may be a crazy suggestion, but I wonder what you think and what others think? Woudl a different set of more experienced and perhaps authortative dog-owners be best for him? You don’t have to decide today, and if taking her back is best for her and you, well then, it’s a huge success. She does want to destroy our kids stuffies and is now showing interest in tearing up books, and she also tries to counter-surf and table-surf (I am trying to teach her to “leave it” but she keeps coming back). My main concern is that she has been growling at my husband at times when he comes near her. Has he talked to the shelter about any help with training? As I find myself in the same situation as 90% of you did, I just had to make one of the hardest decisions in my life. They were my first babies and having this puppy here is kind of ruining everything with them. I’ve been nervous about going outside the house perimteter until the bond is stronger because where we live now there is livestock around. I am trying to only be positive and show him love. We exercise the heck out of him – long, long walks and fetch. But much of my reading comes down to the “strong leader” concept. Someone then phoned up asking about her and said they were coming to take a look after the weekend. But he only knows a few commands. I know of too many people who have brought dogs back after a week or two, adding to the dogs’ general trauma. When I had to drop him back off at the foster I cried thinking I may never see him again. You were 6 weeks old when you came … She is between 8-10 years old, thought to be spayed (not). Especially when the oldest invites/encourages these behaviours because of the stimming he does. Then I found a wonderful dog trainer who quickly pronounced my puppy a “gem,” and told me to forget about the alpha dog stuff and learn how to give the dog the training she needed to be successful. At first, she was so sweet, calm, seemed so gentle and just what I wanted. ————————- At this point we were about out of options for poor little Bella. Granted, they both had wonderful homes to go back to, but still… It was hard. Unfortunately the story ends sadly. Even though she is getting exercise, with covid, we can’t take her to doggy daycare or the dog park yet, and we are still grieving so much for our old dog that just died. Doing your homework and making sure you get the right dog for your circumstances goes a long way too. I just don’t think of her as a ‘dog’ — just a Mad Millie. We’d never had a dog before (my last one was when I was a teenager and if I’m honest don’t think we were great dog owners… I sure didn’t do much caretaking) …But I love my friends’ dogs, I’ve envied the companionship I know they provide, and I thought my kids deserved to know the love of a dog. Manu, the love you express for Jimpa, and all sentient creatures, warms all of our hearts! My eldest dog was 9 years old and has pretty advanced arthritis so her camping and hiking days are limited. We don’t have enough details to say too much more, especially why the foster home feels that they don’t know where to go from here. Jimpa’s story is far from over, but slowly he is becoming a part of our family, and I can feel the warmth of his emotions just as he can feel mine. Beaten, emaciated and afraid of everything, the idea was that I would rehabilitate him and the rescue would then find him a new home. Almost immediately. What kind of person would I be if I ended up giving him back? My smart, friendly, affectionate boy learned quickly, charmed his trainers and earned his CGC. But for my sake, and her sake, I think she needed a different home than I could offer. The puppy didn’t do anything wrong and the two dogs got along just fine. Here’s the usual course of events after bringing home a new puppy or dog: Like any responsible pet owner, you had done due diligence. He's 12. My heart hurts so bad and I am not sure that I made the right decision. We just rescued what we were told was a one-year old German shepherd dog. I started obedience training with Oreo and separate them in kennels but I felt so bad that they had to be in kennels just to make it work. And oh yes yes yes, regrets after months? She would have been the wrong dog for me if I wasn’t retired with lots of time to spend training and exercising her, as well as patience. Oh you poor thing! I already had a 5 year old female Aussie with epilepsy, and a rescue female Border Collie/English Setter cross (about 6 years old). I’m a bad bad observer of myself, I thought I just was insecure instead I just wasnt’ ready. It's a losing battle and I give up. My daughter volunteers at a horse rescue place. I hope anyone reading this post knows that it’s ok to return a pet, its ok to feel discourage, horrible, fearful, and upset about your pet, its ok to consider alternative options for your pet that may not include you, and its ok to put yourself first in dog ownership. Whatever the problem is, there is no way I can avoid exposing the dog to that problem if I want a dog that is adoptable. She was also calm in her kennel. I am in love with my new dog and nothing is ever going to separate me from him, but I was a mess for a week. Her new Mom felt Panda was “sent” to her. Three days ago, (my sad “3”) we waved goodbye to our 14-month-old Pit/Lab/Shepherd who was headed back to the great rescue we adopted him from as a 14-week old puppy. We started casually looking for a rescue dog. It’s been only 4 days, he doesn’t go in the house, minimal whining, some barking. After a week, my anxiety passed and perspective returned. Lately, however, just his constant presence and dependency on me has brought on a sickening dread and anxiety that I’ve never experienced in my life. They need time to adjust, you need time to adjust and sometimes it can be weeks or months before you’re settled and bonded. Like I said, day 1 and day 2 were very different and way more calm. She also still has accidents inside although I was told she was potty trained when I got her and have tried to do a good job reinforcing it. When I met her, it was instant love. But he had already claimed a place in my heart that would always be his. Have invited Patience and Faith a permanent home with the latest rescue, a puppy mill survivor and they have been good companions for her and me. Or, because life doesn’t always go according to plan, a dog showed up on your doorstep and waltzed into your heart as if on Dancing with the Stars. And a referral to a great therapist who could help you with your anxiety… like many it is no doubt so much worse cuz of Covid. She is a very social dog which helped a lot in modifying her behavior. She is friendly and playful, but our resident surviving dog doesn’t want to play. I love her so much but now that I got her home with me I’m regretting it some. No exceptions. Everything is so perfect. Today started with a walk around the garden. We already had ZOOM training with click and treat, we have crate trained her, she is housebroken, but she wants to chase the cats, chew the furniture and she still bites and mouths. I have been looking at studio apartments–it might be easier for the dog to stay and me go at this point. Well, we’ve just hit the two week mark and I go back and forth about a hundred times a day. I also wanted to volunteer as a fosterer for a couple of rescues near me, which is how our elder dog came into our lives. Four days is the worst! I just am heartbroken because my resident dog is my soul mate and has saved my life in more ways than I can count, and I feel like I’ve now made his life worse. Well, it’s probably not now. We also can’t adopt a third dog to somehow “fix” the situation. Lots of tree damage. No blood, no cuts, but immense fear rose up for me. The only way to get rid of them is to just get rid of the dog. A couple of days later, I got a phone call from Ruth, crying, almost sobbing, saying she wanted Bella back because she just missed that little dog. When I adopted her I was told she was house trained and crate trained and although she may have the occasional adjustment accident this would fizzle out. I can’t change what happened, but I can change what happens now, moving forward.” Write a story about what happened to your dog, including how you felt about yourself and others involved before, during, and after the loss of your dog. Dog walking should be a fun, relaxing activity. and what if my husband is someone that wants dogs? But for the next several years, if we keep the dog, I don’t think I’ll be able to keep my anxiety and fear at bay; and I know that dogs are very attuned to emotions. My daughter is totally disillusioned and unhappy now more than prior to the dog. We are only 3 weeks in and it has been so much more difficult than I ever imagined. We stupidly (?) It’s nice to know that decisions based on the heart rather than the head can work out. She tugs and pulls until my arm feels like its going to fall off to sus out a person, who she then either jumps on and becomes a pile of mush for or she gets really low and growls at them. It looks tiny, but I’d guess at least 1,000 pounds of tree fell from it. We’ve had so many people join the group shell-shocked by their new dogs. I don’t think it’s right to take the dog back to the shelter-it’s not his fault I didn’t say no but I cannot live with this dog. He was anxious and had phobias related to car travel and noises. I understand that he’s my first ever responsibility as an adult, but I wonder if I’m too young and potentially setting him up to be rehomed in a few years when I have to move or want to move far away. No one had the heart to break them up! He’s perfect and lovely and I want to make this work. His presence would still be in my memory. Don’t get husky-types that like to sing the song of their people, will never be perfectly trained, and shed like demons. The bad news is that it takes energy and organization to treat, but the good news is that you are home and can do it! He is an Irish wolfhound X (with possibly Great Dane or Bull Arab) called Sammy. While she is so unconditionally loving towards me, it does not mean that i cannot be hurt or feel a range of emotions about her. Remember–your duty to this dog is not to force yourself to be “the one,” but rather to know who he is, and help him find the right place for him. Sounds like something mis-aligned is going on all right. He is a very unruly young male, very sweet, no training AT ALL. Don’t be shy to ask as many questions as you need until you’re comfortable that you have a reasonable chance of being a good match. And she has a dog sister, and 3 human brothers. Thankfully, we haven’t had any incidents and shortly after the turn, I bought your books (Cautious Canine, Feisty Fido, The another End of the Leash) and devoured them. When my puppy was very little I did regret it but it was a 'what the hell have I done' but now he is the best thing I ever did. Kudos to that. Update: We have made the decision to return our sweet girl to the rescue. Saying that the training is hard and continous and we are getting close to him being 10 months soon but I fully expect to continue the formal training for another year. I’m so glad I found this post as I am currently going through it. He has had to come off these meds however as it was causing him to have an upset stomach. I’ve learned so much from her and I like to think she found the perfect home with us. My fiancé and I overcame some struggles when introducing him to her, but we’ve all been in a really good place for about the last year. Loves other dogs. Another one a small Mini-fixie (like your ‘rat terriers’) I gave away to a man who really wanted him. 4 he has his own space in an xpen so they are not continuously pestered. To Ali re your pittie: Wowser. So, we went to the SPCA had a long chat with the adoption specialist and took home a lab mix that was labeled “ok with cats.”. She is sweet but so active. Plus they’re incredibly grateful to find loving homes and will repay your love a thousand times over. Here are some things you can do: Share your experiences with other people in similar situations. Our rescue has kindly said we can take another week to see if it’s a fit because we are fostering to adopt but what kind of person would I be if I rehomed him simply because I’m too anxious and want freedom. It’s day 3 for us and I’m googling like crazy for reassurance. And it’s my fault. She revealed her high energy after 2-3 days, very sweet, but tackling my other dog, etc. Chances are there is a great dog out there for you! So much emotional work. It will get better–BUT: Puppies aren’t for everyone. . Everything was a new and frightful experience. 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